At this point in my life, I'm not the woman I need to be in order to be a part of a God-honoring relationship. I'm in a place where my hurt will only bring me down, and in order for me to rise out of the muck, I need to have goals.
So here are my non-negotiables for ANY future relationships IN WRITING so that I can be held accountable and hold myself accountable to these:
For my partner:
- loves and seeks after Christ
- committed to doing so in an authentic way
- strong enough to make decisions that include me
- considers me in their actions
- excited to be with me
- affirms their feelings both emotionally and physically
- open, honest, and forthcoming with emotions and thoughts
- wants to be a part of my life
- wants me to be a part of his
- involved in healthy community
- committed to doing what is right no matter the consequences
- confronts issues as they arise
For me:
- seeks the Lord daily in decisions and for guidance
- passionate about pursuing Christ's love and living it out
- supportive first
- loving always
- challenges to help him reach his potential--not just for the sake of challenging him
- affectionate
- dependable
- selfless --takes him into consideration in all decisions
- confident and trusting
- involved in healthy community
- seeking guidance from trusted examples
